How can I explain the importance of marriage and family to others?

I was asked to teach the seventeen-year-olds today. This is my first delve into the 'Come, Follow Me' curriculum and I love it. The topic is in the title. At a whirlwind rate, the definition of marriage and family has gone from one that most of the world agreed, to a completely divergent one. How can we explain the importance of marriage and family to others?

Studies and overwhelmingly agree that marriage between a man and a woman is the surest way to happiness and good children. More than that, it is God's plan, which overrides all human studies. "The social science case for marriage and for families headed by a married man and woman is compelling," said Elder D. Todd Christofferson of the Quorum of Twelve Apostles in April 2015 Conference, "But our claims for the role of marriage and family rest not on social science but on the truth that they are God's creation." The traditional definition of marriage, is God's plan for the happiness of His children. I know this is true.

Elder Neil L. Andersen wrote, "While many governments and well-meaning individuals have redefined marriage, the Lord has not."  And I love this part.  "He designated the purposes of marriage to go far beyond the personal satisfaction and fulfillment of adults to, more importantly, advancing the ideal setting for children to be born, reared, and nurtured."

Marriage is not merely to make a man and woman happy.  It goes far beyond that.  It protects children and preserves nations.  The Family: A Proclamation to the World states,  "we warn that the disintegration of the family will bring upon individuals, communities, and nations the calamities foretold by ancient and modern prophets."

Get married.  Stay married.

Marry the right person in the right place, at the right time.  I thought it interesting that the Los Ancgeles Times wrote in 2000, "in an era of divorce, Mormon temple weddings are built to last, " with only a 6 percent divorce rate.  Another study, published in 1993 Demography Magazine, concluded that members of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-daySaints who marry in one of the Church's temples are the least likely of all Americans to divorce.

Speaking of Demographics, my husband directed me this morning to a talk given at BYU by Elder Quentin L. Cook.

It is estimated that 46 percent of the world lives in countries in which the fertility rate is below 2.1 children-the rate necessary for the population to remain stable.  Most European and Asian countries are below this level.  Italy and Japan are both at about 1.3 births.  Japan is expected to decrease in population from 120 million to about 100 million by the year 2050.

This worldwide decline in population has been described by some as the "demographic winter."  Many countries are not having enough children to replace the generation that is dying.

Let's see if we can illustrate this problem here in the Marriott Center.  Will all of you who are the oldest child in your family please stand and remain standing?  In today's world, in many of these countries, but not in the United States, most of you who are still seated would never have been born.

Now everyone who is the third or later child in your family stand, and remain standing.  You would not have been born, even in the United States, if the current trends applied.  Can you see why they call it a demographic winter?

Have children.  It is difficult at times, but it is joy. Marriage between a man and a woman, and children in that home are a part of Heavenly Father's plan for the happiness of His children, the safety of nations, and the way back to Him.


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